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i was browsing the net today and finally found the transcript of a frasier serial. for some reason that particular serial, when it came on air, meant a lot to me.

it was about frasier crane wanting to be left alone so he takes off for a drive. he is obviously thinking about whats going on in his life. suddenly the women in his life come into his car. one occupies the front seat, the other two the back seat. they basically talk about his issues with women and try and figure out for him, what goes wrong, why he is not able to hold on to them. so there is lana, lilith, diane chambers, nanette sitting with him talking.

he liked all of them at some point in his life. they were married to him and then they divorce. frasiers problem at that point is that he thinks of himself as a 'failure in love'. lilith says this 'failure is a result, not a cause'. they all realise that there is something wrong at the core somewhere and that needs to be figured out. then things suddenly swing and all the women look at each other and say ' maybe we left you' (i found that a nice way to look at things, it takes the attention off you for a bit hehehe)

then there is another dialogue which which Lilith says: 'That's the problem. Frasier thinks every woman is the perfect woman until he finds the deal-breaking flaw. Can you make that stop?' (i sometimes feel that i am so much like that) she continues and says this: 'It's that quest for perfection which ultimately defeats you, because the perfect woman does not exist.' (i keep telling my really close friends about this line from the movie good will hunting, which goes something like this 'She is not perfect. You are not perfect. The question is whether or not you are perfect for each other')

the discussion goes on and finally hester crane joins. she is frasier's mother. the first thing she says is: 'You've spent your whole life trying to replace me, but it's completely understandable. I was your first love.' (i found that extremely funny)

the rest of the discussion goes something like this:

Lilith: Ladies, meet the competition. [indicating Hester] This is the woman against whom we have all been measured.

Frasier: [interrupting her] Lilith, will you please be quiet! Mother is speaking!
Hester: So, a lifetime of collecting women and this is the cream of the crop: the slacker, the barmaid, and the icicle. I was so relieved when they left you.
Diane: You left him too!
Hester: Oh, I had no choice. Perhaps you heard? I died. Now, let's get down to work, shall we? [moves to the couch]
Lilith: We were doing perfectly well before you got here.
Hester: Well, if your bargain-basement psychiatry was so effective, why did he have to call in the big guns? [sits] Now, let's explore the inner recesses of your psyche like we did when you were a boy. [indicates her knee]
Frasier: I don't want to!

As Hester begins to speak, Frasier approaches the couch, lies on it,and puts his head on Hester's lap.

Hester: Perhaps we should start with the premise set forth in the definitive study done by Harlan and Watkins.
Lilith: Oh, excuse me, but the definitive study was done ten years later at Cambridge.
Hester: Oh, excuse me for not keeping up. I was busy being dead!
Nanette: That's her excuse for everything!
Hester: Don't you have a tambourine to bang?
Nanette cowers in fear.
Diane: Don't feel bad. She tried to kill me once.
Hester: Oh, not this paranoia again!
Diane: You had a gun.
Hester: Frasier, don't listen to them. These women are all liars and cheaters. I'm the only woman you can trust.
Diane: You're a fine one to talk! You cheated on Martin (frasier's father)
Hester: Oh, that's none of your beeswax, Missy!
Lilith: Oh, betrayal by the mother. Is there any deeper wound?
Hester: [stands] I'd say sleeping with his brother is right up there!
Diane: [gasps, to Lilith] You did?!
Hester: Mmm-hmm!
they start fighting with each other
Lilith: Stop it! Stop it! Stop it! Don't you see what he's doing? He's pitting us against each other in order to avoid the real conflict within himself. We must work together.
The others respond with "Right," "I agree," etc. They converge on Frasier.
Hester: What is the problem? Why can't you make it work with a woman?
Diane: Is it because they leave you?
Nanette: Have you stopped listening to your heart?
Lilith: Is it your unrealistic expectations?
Frasier: I don't know. [gets off the couch and runs to the door] Leave me alone! I don't want to do this!

He opens the door and gasps. There is a score of women crowded in thedoorway. "Hi, Frasier," they all say. He closes the door behind him in a state of utter panic.

Diane: What is it?
Frasier: It's every woman I've ever dated!
Frasier: What am I going to do?
Hester: Now, son. I know this is frightening for you, but you have to do the work.
Frasier: [gives in] Okay... [walks back to the center of the room] Okay. [sits on the couch] Fine. All right. I screwed things up with Lana. But wait, that wasn't my fault. She was still in love with her ex-husband.
Lilith: No, Lana is not the problem.
Hester: No, she wasn't right for you at all.
Frasier: Oh, mother, you would say that. You never approved of any of my relationships.
Hester: Don't pin this on me. I liked Claire.
Diane: Oh, she was perfect for you.
Nanette: Everybody thought so.
Hester: So why didn't it work out?
Lilith: Maybe because she was just right for you.
Frasier: What does that mean?
Hester: Well, Claire was everything we ever looked for in a woman.
Lilith: And that terrified you.
Diane: Because inevitably she would have left you.
Nanette: And so, of course, you ran away.
Frasier: No, no, no. I left Claire because I discovered I had feelings for Lana.
Lilith: You created feelings for Lana...
Hester: Who was extremely flawed...
Lilith: So you'd have an excuse to leave Claire.
Frasier: Yes, but I didn't need an excuse. I didn't love her!
Lilith: You didn't want to love her.
Hester: She was too good.
Diane: And that's why you were afraid.
Frasier: All right, you're saying that I'm afraid of a good woman?
Hester: You're afraid of losing a good woman. Again.

And just like that, Frasier gets it. He is silent for a moment.

Frasier: So that's it... all this work, just to find out that I have a fear of rejection?
Lilith: That's right.
Frasier: [beside himself] So I'm alone... because I'm afraid to be alone?!
Diane: Don't feel too bad. You'll always have us. Isn't that right,girls?

They begin to speak at once, agreeing with Diane.

Frasier: All right, wait a minute!

They become silent. Frasier now has a tremendous moment of revelation.He rises and paces the room.

Frasier: That's it! That's my problem. You are always there. I have carried you with me throughout every relationship, on every date. You pick apart every woman I care about and you remind me how much it'll hurt if I open myself up. You don't help me. You hold me back. How will I ever move forward if I don't put you behind me...?

He looks behind him. The four women have all disappeared. He looks around again, realizes that his epiphany was real, and smiles.